Reasons Men Focus On Physical Appearance Instead Of The Heart Or Mind

Reasons men focus on physical appearance instead of the heart or mind

I’ve been a matchmaker in Los Angeles for 17 years, and there are no shortage of single men hoping to attract a “10!” Remember that film with Dudley Moore and Bo Derek? Yep, that’s what I mean.  Lets talk about some of the reasons men focus on physical appearance instead of the heart or mind.

Now, even if they themselves are a “4,” they still dream that a much younger, drop-dead-gorgeous woman is the least they will settle down with. And who could blame them? If I were a man, I would be dreaming as well.

God bless the wonderful single men out there, but I will say  that it IS the most frustrating part of my job! And many women ask me, “Are looks all that these men are interested in? Do they just want a trophy wife? What about the soul . . . don’t they care about that?”

Yes, men can seem very shallow, judging a woman solely on her looks. In our specialized service, I do feel terrible turning away fabulous women because I know that my male clients would not want to meet them based on their appearance. And because the men in our service are paying a lot, they expect the moon.

Men’s preferences are biologically hardwired to find signs of youth and health attractive in order to determine which females are best suited to carry on their genes. It might sound silly and unfair, but men just can’t help it. Men are visual. Women, on the other hand, are more attracted to certain other qualities in men, such as the way he makes them feel. Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Exactly! We will never change our “shallow” brothers. We must embrace them and sometimes have a good laugh about the absurdity of it all!

But, at the same time, don’t throw in the towel just because you don’t look like a super model. Neither do I, but my husband thinks I’m a “10.” And most men really are looking for the “whole package.” The most important thing is that you feel good about yourself. If that means getting into better shape or updating your appearance, it can only help you to be more attractive to a man.

Just some of the reasons men focus on physical appearance instead of the heart or mind.

~ Happy Dating


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